So you’ve made it there, now what? Not to worry, here’s the nitty-gritty for playing his Penis. With a little practice, you’ll be a master musician with your eyes closed.
My student Cynthia swore that she hated fellatio. Her jaw hurt, she couldn’t get in to it, and she claimed to not really like her husband’s penis. Like so many women, she put a lot of pressure on herself to get it right and her husband could see that she didn’t really enjoy it. She’d had some early experiences that hadn’t been good, so when she married Harry, she was already in a state of stress around oral. I taught Cynthia how to enjoy oral, how to fall in love with Harry’s penis, and to get into a playful space where she could be creative. Harry was so excited that Cynthia started to ask to go down on him, and Cynthia, for the first time in her life, felt that she was not just good at giving but great. Learning to give and receive penis play not only helped the couple’s oral sex life, but it sparked a renewed sense of love and enjoyment in their relationship overall.
Use the following techniques to build confidence in your oral lovemaking so that you can take the pressure off yourself to do it right, enjoy the experience, and give your partner an unforgettably pleasurable oral experience. The techniques can be, but do not have to be, practiced in exact sequence.
A reminder on erections: Arousal levels in men ebb and flow, just as do arousal levels in women. There is a myth that a man should stay hard the entire time that he is interacting with you. This is not true. As you practice these techniques, you may note that your lover’s level of hardness changes. That is okay, and it doesn’t mean that what you are doing is wrong. Most likely it feels just as good when he is soft as when he is hard. You can also help your guy relax about his erections by letting him know that it is okay to be soft too. Some of these techniques actually feel better when he is soft to semierect.